William Butler Yeats once said, “There are no strangers here; only friends you haven’t met yet.
I find myself wondering much too often about what you are doing. The “you” I am referring to is the people that were in my life at one point but are no longer. How do we learn to forget these people? How do they learn to forget us? How do we force forgetting someone; because you can never stop knowing someone…can you? Take your first love for example, do you ever forget their birthday or anniversaries dates? Do those days just become regular? Is it our minds telling us to move on and ignore them, so our hearts do nothing but follow… or do we actually forget?
I always say you either love someone & always will, or you never really did. But, this does not mean “in love.” I love my best friends, family, dog, and my first love with all my heart- I just am not in love with them. I feel as if people don’t realize the difference between the two anymore…being “in love” and “loving” someone. I think my heart is just too big to believe that we “forget” about old friends and old lovers because they don’t matter. But, in someway I hope that we just force ourselves to forget. The songs, restaraunts, movies and car rides just bring back too much pain- so we force ourselves to forget. But little do we realize at the time that we are forcing ourselves to forget the good because that is what hurts the most.Relationships & friendships are like a collision; where two cars crash into one another and will never be the same again. The collision can wreck us,change us and connect us.
One thing nobody has a choice of, is the fact that we all start as strangers. Along this journey we call “life” we find people, classmates, neighbors, family, friends, peers, coworkers, and lovers who make us wonder what life was like without them. What I am trying to say is that everyday we are all waiting for a new collision to occur, to change our lives and to make us feel whole again. We all start as strangers, but we do choose who ends up as a stranger. Time heals all wounds and there is no reason that you cannot reach out to a loved one or friend whom you no longer talk to; just because they are on your mind.
This happens to everyone, not just you. As you grow up, you find out who you are and what you want. Sometimes the people you’ve grown up with, don’t see things the same way as you. And so, you keep the memories, but move on.
So just remember, they say that people come and go. But the truth is, nobody actually disappears from your life. People never leave; their roles just change.