Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
While sitting in the kitchen, I looked at my two friends and said “What should I write about tonight?” One replied, “Us.” So I intend to do so.
Picture yourself at your favorite store, picking out new clothes to try on. “Wow, I really like that,” you think to yourself. But you leave it on the rack because you don’t know what other people would think if you wore that. Would you get unwanted attention? Would they laugh? Why are there so many left? Does nobody like it? So you decide just stick with a basic v-neck. That’s right.I said basic.
Going into high school I had this mindset of how I should act and dress because that’s what everyone else was doing. I didn’t want to relive my junior high days that consisted of bullying & trying to “fit in.” 5ish years later I am proud to say that I never turned into that girl. I don’t really care what is “in style” or whether or not you’re “allowed” to wear white after labor day… (or something like that) I wear a lot of black…because I like to wear black. I wear neon canvas vans because I like to wear them. Nothing I do is for any other reason than because it makes me happy and I want to do so.
I am who I am today because of the people whom I met throughout my high school journey. One of my friends, wears mismatching socks, colorful pants and whatever shirt he feels like wearing that day. When I first became friends with him, I remember telling my dad how much I admired him for his confidence and self-worth. I had never seen someone who literally did not mind wearing “clunky” Osiris shoes with purple pants, one sock with pizza on it and the other with a shark. I had never met anyone like him before he absolutely amazed me. This still stands today.
One of the captions of his pictures on Facebook is quoted for him saying, “I learned that if I’m more confident with my outside self, then I thought I could be more confident with my inside self.”
I just think that one of the most important life lessons I learned in high school was definitely influenced by my friendship with him. If I ended up living a boring life because I listened to my teacher, or the girls at school, or the magazines, or my parents telling me how to live my life… then I would deserve that boring life. Nobody can tell you how to live your life because it is your life to live. Throughout our days we are influenced by our peers and those who surround us everyday; it is these occurrences that make us who we are.
So remember, don’t try to be somebody else… because everybody else is already taken.
P.S. This is a video of my friends that Danny filmed the summer before we all separated for college,
P.S.S. I also recently made a Facebook page that will be linked in the “About” section of the home page so readers can keep contact with me and continuously give me great suggestions!
Happy Reading xoxo