Ansel Adams once said, “No man has the right to dictate what other men should perceive, create or produce, but all should be encouraged to reveal themselves, their perceptions and emotions, and to build confidence in the creative spirit.”
We all have those days where we text or call our best friend because we are upset over something… what are you upset about? The boy not texting you back? A teacher not liking your topic? A girl ignoring you? Maybe somebody cut you off while you were driving to work. Or the starbucks barista didn’t make your coffee just the way you like it. All these things are not causing anything. These are not the cause of your unhappiness. Nobody can make you feel a certain way.
Obviously the actions other people take have impacts on our lives, but it is up to us to realize who has control. Nobody has the power to take our happiness, freedom, or motivation away from us. You can consider that it is a “sucky” situation but realize that if you become unhappy over somebody else’s choices…then you gave them the power to feel that way.
Sometimes it might seem easier to say to ourselves, “well they broke my heart so I am going to be sad and cry because they did this to me.” Rather than saying to ourselves “well they broke up with me and I need to realize that instead of focusing on forever, I should have focused on the daily forevers I had with them that made me so happy and that I felt happy because of not because of them but because I allowed myself to feel that way.” HOW cliché AND naive OF ME…. Am I right ladies?
As easy as it is to constantly blame others, we have the control. None of us can live in a world where everybody is victimized by everyone around them. Yes we all know the dreaded “I keep my guard up because my heart was broken” or the infamous “everybody leaves so why let anybody in” I too agree that these events that are heartbreaking and cause us pain help form us. BUT WE ALLOW THEM TO DO SO. Take charge over yourself, over your soul, and your emotions. Don’t expect to be a shattered piece vase and have somebody come running up to glue you back together… that is just not how life works. If you fall, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and walk with your head held higher and your eyes shining brighter.
So, know that you will get hurt, anxious, sad, and not be happy all the time. Nobody is. But, learn to let go. Learn to forgive. The more you do so. The easier it becomes. Stop letting go of your grasp on life when it gets hard and learn to grip it stronger. You are in control. You lead your own destiny. Do not hand over the wheel to somebody else to control your happiness. And if you get anything out of this post I want it to be that you are enough.