Henry Wadsworth Longfellow wrote: “All are architects of fate… so look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again.”
All are architects of fate. What a phrase! An architect is a person who plans, designs, and oversees jobs in their field. Was Henry Wadsworth Longfellow was saying that we all plan, design, and oversee our fate? Fate: the power that controls the future. What if we have the power inside of us all along?
A lot of people believe in fate; meaning that they believe what is meant to be will be. I too believe in fate, but I believe that fate requires a lot of hard work. How could this be? How could fate require work; fate is supposed to just make things happen, right? Wrong. I believe that fate is the power of our future but that we have control over our own fates. A strong example for me would be my college experience thus far. Since moving back home with my parents, I work two jobs and attend class full time in order to graduate in May 2017. Why do I work two jobs? I work two jobs because I am saving my money to attend graduate school and to live on my own. I want to do this. But if I sat around and waited for fate to take it’s course, I don’t think internships, job opportunities, and grad schools will come knocking on my door begging me to apply. I am 19 years old and am already planning for “someday.”
I have learned to take control of my life. All my parents’ friends that read my blog always say that I have “such a way with words” or that I am “so wise for my age.” Personally, I think wisdom has nothing to do with it. I think a lot of what I write is just common sense and reality checks that I have been blessed to have at a young age. These reality checks some people still don’t have in their middle-age, which is why I write them down. I am in no way telling anyone how to live their life or what is right/wrong. I am just writing this blog ultimately for myself, to help myself keep track of everything I’ve learned along the way of my college career. I am currently in the process of writing a book that is a “spin” off of my blog- I hope you are interested in reading/purchasing it through amazon. Once again, I write this book not for other people but for myself and for my family one day. I hope that if I have kids they can take my book into account when growing up so that they realize that sometimes having a “cookie cutter” perfect life isn’t perfect at all.
I am the odd one out in my family and friendships, I think. I am mature for my age, probably too mature for my own good. Which makes me want to have more independence than I am given. In no way do my parents ever hold me back from anything but sometimes I just want to experience life on my own to get my own perspective, and I think that it scares them half to death. So mom and dad, as you are reading this, know that you raised me well enough to be smart and make good decisions that best suit my happiness. I know that our generations differ in more ways than one but thank you for always trying your best to understand my mindset. Sometimes I don’t quite understand it myself. And if you aren’t my mom or dad but you are the parent of a child from the ages of 18-22, know that you did the best you could and to trust that you did just that.
So, if you are wondering what steps to take next just ask yourself what makes you happy and go from there.
It feels good to be back,